August 16, 2020

Humbled Females: new forum reply to Hello World

New reply from .willow.

<p>Welcome to the site!</p>
<p>We all have our own opinions about things in life. It doesn't make these opinions necessarily the way things are. I'd like to offer you a different opinion. I personally believe that all men have dominant traits within them. I believe its simply naturally a part of their core. But I also believe that life, society and upbringing can shape our personalities, men and women alike, so that our natural tendencies are squashed. Or are in slumber. But that doesn't mean that deep down those traits don't inherently exist within you.</p>
<p>For example, the majority of my life I have not even considered myself to have a submissive nature. I knew I was "off" somehow but I lived my life like most other females in the vanilla world. Egocentric, disillusioned and blindly following Feminist ideals.</p>
<p>The change started when I began evaluating me. Who I was vs. who I should be, if being true to myself. And I had to dig deep in order to even begin touching base with my core self. I also believe that all females are inherently submissive. But again, many deter from that part of themselves because of the reasons I stated above.</p>
<p>I won't try to recommend what I think you should do because I'm a woman, not a man. But the men here have provided a lot of very thoughtful advice. I wish you well on your journey of self and hope your efforts bring you to the place in life and with yourself that you wish to be.</p>

Original Post by Dom2099

Hello World

<p>Hello all.</p>
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<p>I am struggling and in need of guidance. I want to be a dominant man, but I'm afraid that I possess too many submissive traits. My father was an every-other-weekend dad. He is very nice guy, but defiantly not dominant over anything. I was always the shy kid who never said much and when I did, I tried to make it funny so people would laugh. I never had a girlfriend because I could not get up the nerve to talk to any girls outside of school-related situations. Looking back, I'm fairly sure that some girls were interested in me, but I was so self-loathing that I could never see the signs or refused to believe that any girl could want me. I was raised by my mother until about 5 when she married a new man. He was basically a bully. He would push me to 'not be a pussy', but he would never really attempt to help me be anything different. When I hit puberty, I gained a lot of weight and it stayed. I was ashamed of my body and never got any encouragement from any males in my life. I think that a bit of the issue is that I have never really had any strong male figures in my life to look up to or to go to with problems. Both sides of my family are matriarchies.</p>
<p>When I was around 25 and still living at home, I decided I wanted to make a change so I agreed to meet a girl my cousin knew. She was very attractive, funny, seemed to know what she wanted and actually seemed interested in me. Fast forward to now and we have been together 10 years and married for 5.</p>
<p>We are to the point that we need to change our dynamic. I am working from home and she is currently going back to school. I have become too complacent in letting her 'steer the ship' and make the decisions. It feels like I moved out of my mom's house and into hers and I fell right back into being OK with a woman in-charge. I want to step up and be a dominant husband and she wants so desperately to be submissive and taken in-hand. I have the desire, but I am not sure about the confidence and skills. I lack confidence and too easily falter when questioned. I have trouble expressing exactly what I want out of a Domestic Discipline life-style. We have tried and failed several times over the years and it always came down to me not following through. I have been reading though many of the posts and articles on this site and I am really liking the spot somewhere between a submissive slave and a 50's style marriage where 'Daddy-knows-best'. I want to lead, but I seem to not be able to convince myself I am a leader.</p>
<p>Any advice or pseudo mentoring would be very appreciated.</p>

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