January 8, 2014

Perspective

By Tina E.

Well, how about that: the holidays have passed once again, and after all the rich foods and drinks shared between family and friends, I resign myself to facing a season-typical struggle in the aftermath: I have gained a little weight and I need to lose it fast! I’m kept on a stricter regimen weight-wise by the man I adore these days and I really don’t want to disappoint him. I think staying healthy and looking your best for the man in your life is essential, but he gives me the extra incentive I need to get back on track!

It’s not always easy, dragging yourself to the gym or making time for a power walk. It’s not particularly fun denying myself the awakened taste for all those rich foods I made and conspired to consume over the holidays, either, but as I groan a little under my breath while putting on the sneakers after the holidays have passed, I almost always find myself reflecting upon the poor, the hungry, and the needy. It’s then I stop and consider how absolutely ludicrous my dilemma is. I realize that for someone who has a problem like mine, life is pretty darn good, in fact. My struggle with losing some extra pounds is nothing, really, compared to those who would love to be in a similar predicament. I realize that having some extra pounds while living in a place that, for many, could be considered a suburban paradise is a sign of comfort and security. I realize that I am one of the lucky ones, in more ways than one.

It’s not that I’m alone in such thoughts over the holidays. From Thanksgiving onward, people send tons of canned goods and money donations to their local shelters while getting into the holiday mood and dutifully reflecting upon the less fortunate. But what happens after New Years? The truth is, most shelters and soup kitchens see a marked drop in donations and support, and that’s just sad. Many such places are all set during the holidays, but for the rest of the year, they are in need of donations, helping hands, and financial support.

Please keep the hungry and less fortunate in your thoughts in the coming year and send donations to your local shelters and soup kitchens, if you can. Ten dollars here, twenty dollars there (these organizations have access to food at fractions of the price you find in supermarkets), a shirt you don’t want any more or those cans of soup in the cupboards that you probably won’t eat…it all can go so far and help so many people in need. But before you give, find out more about the charities you’d like to support. Be certain they use the resources you provide for charitable purposes that support the mission to truly help the hungry and dispossessed. I have provided some links below to some good organizations as just a start, but finding local shelters, kitchens, and food banks in your area is always a great way to make a difference in your own neck of the woods.

https://feedingamerica.org
https://www.breadforthecity.org
https://www.foodtodonate.org
https://www.oxfam.org
https://www.worldvision.org
https://www.goodwill.org


January 3, 2014

2014: The Year Ahead

By Marc Esadrian

Happy New Year to all!

2013 saw a lot of growth for Humbled Females. Our forum membership has tripled from last year, our site aesthetic and social features have evolved, and we managed to add more open access articles to the publications section. Overall, things are looking pretty good for the site’s reemergence. But there’s more to do, of course.

I’m hoping 2014 will bring even more quality articles written from new authors. I hope we’ll see first-class membership increase at a faster rate this year than last, and that we continue fostering an atmosphere of learning and productive exchange here. The latter point is particularly important to me. We’ve seen many “adult” networks rise and fall over the years, but when I consider their histories, I’m reminded of a particular thread of wisdom:

“Nothing is more damaging to a new truth than an old error.” —Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

It’s hard to know what the old errors are with networks and forums, exactly, but I do know one of the common pitfalls we see within many are the establishments of argument-prone cliques. I think we’ve all done a pretty good job at managing that “creeping crud” thus far. At Humbled Females, things have been done a little differently and I think it’s paying off. We don’t have ads. We aren’t just another “meat market” online. We don’t see jaded young ladies filing in to build monuments to their narcissism and little else. We don’t see the same old vacuous BDSM platitudes being parroted by self-appointed gurus. Our forums, for the most part, are free of the divisiveness and childish insults we see hurled regularly on other networks. Our membership count is not in the hundreds of thousands, so discussion is manageable. The people we do have here, however, are quality personalities with many good things to say.

I hope the trend of quality community, where newcomers are welcome to engage in conversation, ask questions, and explore a deeper shade of submission or dominance, continues strongly in 2014. I want Humbled Females to persevere being the beacon of no-nonsense talk on female submission that it has managed to be since its re-inception in the past few years. With continuing engagement, patience, and thoughtful consideration, I think that’s not only possible but a fairly easy goal.

Aside of that, new features and additions to the site are on the way. The environment is constantly being enhanced and tweaked with the end user in mind. The articles will continue to delve into the wilderness of female submission (and male dominance, for that matter) with clarity, depth, and pragmatism. The Humbled Females primer will be updated and more material will be made available in the pay area.

In closing, I wish everyone peace, fortune, and fulfillment in the new year to come. I have a feeling 2014 will bring more good things for us!


December 19, 2012

Unification

By Marc Esadrian

Over the past 12 months, a great deal of effort and planning went into making the Humbled Females website. That work wasn’t only relegated to the administrative side, however. The community itself has done its share in building what this site is today and it’s something we can all be proud of, I think. There’s still more articles to write and theory to hash out in the forums, as I suspect there always will be, but so far, so good.

One of the recurrent problems throughout the existence of the revitalization, however, was the presence of the preexisting site, humbledfemales.net, which was a reboot of the previous original effort (yes, the history is a bit confusing). An enthusiast of the original Livejournal community, back in the days of 2006, who went by the name of “Justine” acquired the domain name after it lapsed and subsequently republished the copyrighted materials from the old, original site that I owned. I wasn’t sure how I felt about that upon discovery, given that I had inevitably let the site close in 2009-2010. We got in contact and hashed out our differences. In doing so, I learned her intentions were merely to bring what was dear to her back to life, and while we didn’t fully see eye to eye on everything per se, I gave permission to republish the articles from the old site as she added new ones. As for the Livejournal community, I agreed to her co-managing the site with me, and so all was fairly well.

In late 2011, however, I decided to rebuild the original vision of Humbled Females. Why? I felt the community needed direction again, especially in light of the Livejournal’s stagnation and the fact that the new domain owner and I didn’t quite see eye to eye on everything. Since I didn’t own the .com domain name, I purchased the .net and .org domains instead, and, voila: the site we have today was born. All along, however, I had been attempting to convince the .com’s owner, “Justine,” to merge our domains together. Because of our mildly conflicting visions, it has not always been the easiest of dialogs between us.

But today I’m happy to announce that the confusing rivalry of the two Humbled Females websites haunts the Internet no longer. In a pleasing turn of events, Justine gracefully decided to give in to my call for unification. As of today, Humbled Females spans the three major domain extensions: .com, .net, and .org.

What this means

The reacquisition of the .com domain extension, along with established copyright and trademark protection, carves out a much stronger and more stable presence online for Humbled Females. Our visibility in search engine results will increase markedly, meaning we’ll be a little easier to find on major search engines like Google, Bing, Yahoo, Dogpile, Mahalo, and DuckDuckGo. That means more sign-ups and more support for the site. Most importantly of all, however, it means we now speak with one voice. And that’s a very good thing.

I’d like to take this opportunity to publicly thank Justine, the previous owner/manager of the .com domain from 2010-2012, for her help in unifying the domains. Her cooperation in bringing our sites together was critical, and so my personal appreciation runs high for her in doing so.

Happy Holidays to you all and I hope to see more growth and continued good news for Humbled Females in 2013!