August 9, 2020

Humbled Females: new forum reply to Stress reduction strategies

New reply from Nina E.

<p><em>"A good spanking!"</em><br /><br />LOL, I agree Mr. Standfast. It certainly puts things back into proper perspective. Too much stress can make one over-exaggerate one's difficulties–until one is faced with a more immediate one. ;-)<br /><br />I agree with others that not enough sleep is a really important thing to pay attention to. I don't know if it affects my level of stress because it seems to affect absolutely everything: clear thinking, overall performance, enthusiasm, even weight loss (it gets worse).  Sometimes I can't avoid lack of sleep, so I try to pay attention to the times when I _can_ avoid it, like voluntarily staying up too late because I am doing something fun or obsessive.<br /><br /><em>"…i</em><span class="s2"><em>n my eyes that feels like still moving forward (which for some reason seems to be an important feeling)."</em><br /><br /></span>I agree with this, too. If one doesn't feel like they are making progress or, even worse, feels like they are backtracking, that can cause huge amounts in stress or even depression in people who are conscientious and assume responsibility (even when there is little control over outcomes). This is often a submissive mindset and sometimes we need to be on the lookout for, especially if unowned or unmanaged.</p>
<p>I also agree that regulating emotions is very important. If you're calm, even very difficult situations won't cause you to stumble or freak out, in fact, you might even laugh over them.  How to do this, however, can be difficult: there is no one-size-fits-all emotion regulation technique.  Everyone has to find their own way.  Nature has naturally regulated my emotions, at least the ones caused by normal female biology, but occasionally I obsess too much around certain stress points I experience. My Master usually notices that early on and steps in. Basically, he orders me to cut it out. I do, and then I feel better. :-)<br /><br />For me there's this weird connection between physical exercise and stressful thoughts. Doing my daily pushups can make me very angry, if I happen to think about something that normally just mildly ticks me off.  A regular walk (or equivalent) won't do that, that is relaxing. It's more the strength-building stuff that invokes random angry feelings and fantasies out of nowhere.  But since I'm aware of this, I now watch for it. My solution when my mind goes into a hissy fit while doing situps? I just laugh at myself for being such a dumbass and tell my mind to shut up so I can do my exercises better. While I use more colorful words with myself, I am basically copying my Master's technique.  It works well! :-)</p>
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Original Post by _daisy_

Stress reduction strategies

<p>There are some interesting strategies here to help females deal with stress. (It's not directed specifically at females but they seem particularly relevant as do the coping mechanisms they help to avoid: getting lost worrying, procrastination, food, and anti-anxiety drugs.</p>
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<p>This one in particular caught my attention:</p>
<div class="wps_wp_editor_quote">fill a large bowl with ice water, set a timer for 15 to 30 seconds, take a deep breath and hold your breath while dipping your face into the water. While this isn’t conventionally relaxing, it will slow your heart rate, allowing blood to flow more easily to your brain. I love watching my clients try this over our telehealth calls and seeing firsthand how quickly this shifts their perspective. Just being willing to do this, I tell my clients as they prepare to submerge, is a way to practice being flexible.</div>
<p>Practicing being flexible seems like a useful skill for a submissive female and being willing to do things they might think will be unpleasant. </p>
<p>I'm interested in others' thoughts on this and the other strategies.</p>
<p>Are there other stress reducing strategies you get your female to use? Or your Master gets you to use? Or you come up with yourself (maybe this is an area where our previous discussion of not being complacent can come into play?)</p>
<p>Making efforts to regulate our emotions seems helpful.</p>

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