August 3, 2020

Humbled Females: new forum reply to Onetime Actions

New reply from Nina E.

<p>My sole onetime action for improving my entire life and setting it on the trajectory it needed to be on was finding a Master. I am extremely lucky: I was able to do this twice in my life.  That's it. Everything else fell into place: nutrition, engagement, boredom (Master always has things for me to do if I ask Him, and so I often do.) I have recreational activities that I do when He wants me to just go "do my thing" but I don't feel guilty over them. Then tend to be kind of silly sorting and organizing activities (these days, most of them are virtual).  They are pretty meaningless, except for the fact that they  personally entertain me, lol.   And I don't care/worry in the least if its OCD, because as soon as I am needed for something else… I am able to drop it instantly, thanks to the excellent training I've been given. <br /><br />About not engaging with media during Covid times, well, I have to ask, <em>what else</em> are you going to do? Go counting flowers on the wall? (Old song lyric from a time when people loved wallpaper.)   The house, condo, apartment, or Yurt is spotless, you're not currently on an insane work deadline that requires overtime, other maintenance chores (errands, bills, children, pets, etc.) are caught up, nothing specific for you to do, so why not enjoy yourself at whatever you like best? It doesn't have to be self-improving or intellectual or (shudder) "productive." Have you noticed how so many people are obsessed with being productive these days?  It's one of the common mental illnesses of this time, and it's been passed down, at least two generations. It's wasn't around when I was a kid (wipes brow over a close escape). I had a lot of freedom as a child, and that helped me become creative and able to think for myself. </p>
<p>I think the big life hack, trick, or habit to engage in, in these particular times, if you are not owned or your time is mostly your own is to find safe things to do at home that you really enjoy, that engage you deeply, so that you won't be tempted to do "Something That Is  Incredibly Stupid During a Pandemic," like congregate closely with large groups of people. Whether it's TV watching, posting or reading obsessively on social media,  organizing stuff (that's my guilty pleasure, lol), do it–as long as it doesn't start making you feel too bad. The social media bug, I've heard, drives more people nuts than TV watching, so TV people, stop feeling guilty!  You are a step up on the sanity ladder, lol.  I am a reader and so naturally I have been news doom-scrolling since this pandemic began, and I've  recently noticed it's starting to make me feel bad. I am now cutting back on that activity. I'm trying to do things that make me feel better, not worse. I think it's also important to try not to get addicted (or more addicted) to any substances. While I was obsessively doom-scrolling, I read that alcohol purchases are skyrocketing everywhere. I am not surprised, given how bored people are, but it's worrisome.</p>
<p>Why worry about being obsessive about what you love to do if it is not slowly killing you or harming anyone else? Why feel guilty?  The sphere of things you can safely do has been severely contracted due to events beyond your control, so why not get your pleasure when you can and where it is appropriate?  I mean, it's  hard in times when you're cooped up at home due to safety concerns and seldom going out and doing something fun, even outdoors (In another recent doom-scroll I read that the National Parks are currently being trashed by selfish partiers–they are doing terrible and gross things to them, making them unsafe for others.) I think many people are getting a bit habitual and obsessive over their usual "at home" time activities when there is nothing more pressing to do…or you can't go out due to safety reasons.  And then, because of our culture, we actually feel <em>guilty</em> about doing the absolute right thing: staying inside and keeping ourselves sane and occupied.  Normally, our lives are  filled with a lot more activities: work, errands, and pleasures outside the home.  But these are weird times, when we have to semi-hibernate for safety reasons, stay in the cave around the fire pit. So why not do the things we like to do as that will make us happier and likely more healthy in the long run? If you are the helping type, you may be able to do some virtual volunteering somewhere or find a good cause to donate some spare change to (I suspect there are a lot of those around these days.)</p>
<p>One more life hack I've learned, from my Master, is  that a clean nest (or fire pit) makes you feel so much better. Even if you don't like to clean, being in a really nice environment, the nicest one you can make for yourself, makes you feel better. The light physical activity can be good for you—especially if it's hard to get it in other ways. You know how you feel when you walk into the lobby of a fancy hotel? Everything shines and glistens, no dust on the counters or furniture, the lighting is good, the air smells good, fresh… Even though most homes tend to be a lot more humble than big hotel lobbies, you can still get that "good feeling" from them, if you know that everything is fully wiped down, dusted, cleaned, smelling good, shining on the surfaces that can shine, like windows, mirrors, stainless steel, and so on. Even TV watching might become more relaxing and enjoyable if you know, from looking around you, that you've "earned it." :-)  The accumulation of stains, spots, crumbs, dust, hairs on furniture or carpet, stains on floors, greasy fingerprints, gradually increasing bad smells, and, last but not least, the clutter of excess possessions that you never use and with no place to put them, can have an opposite effect.<br /><br /><em>"<strong>Finance:</strong> Call your service providers (cable, electric, etc.) and ask for a lower rate."  … "Does that work?"</em><br /><br />I don't know, but I do know that many will put you on a monthly average plan, so you pay the same amount each month, without the bill skyrocketing at certain times in the year. This can be useful for electric and gas. </p>

Original Post by .willow.

Onetime Actions

<p>I am subscribed to the site The site contains information about positive and effective habit forming, among other worthwhile life lessons. </p>
<p>In the email I received today he referred to Onetime Actions that are low in effort and long in benefit. Since I am on a huge habit forming/changing kick, I found value in his advice and wanted to share it. Some of these actions are so simple but I can see how they can make a huge difference: </p>
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<li><strong>Nutrition:</strong> Use smaller plates to reduce caloric intake.</li>
<li><strong>Sleep:</strong> Remove your television from your bedroom.</li>
<li><strong>Productivity:</strong> Delete games and social media apps from your phone.</li>
<li><strong>Focus:</strong> Permanently set your phone in Do Not Disturb mode.</li>
<li><strong>Happiness:</strong> Get a dog.</li>
<li><strong>Health:</strong> Buy better shoes to avoid back pain.</li>
<li><strong>Finance:</strong> Call your service providers (cable, electric, etc.) and ask for a lower rate.</li>
<p>While it would be a super hard one for me to do, I'm dancing around the Sleep suggestion of removing my television from my bedroom. </p>
<p>Does anyone else have any Onetime Actions that produce a lengthy benefit to your life?</p>
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