July 6, 2020

Humbled Females: new forum reply to Mothering vs. Anticipatory Service

New reply from emergingessence

<p>@ Marc,</p>
<div class="wps_wp_editor_quote">Said another way, sweep the floor, fetch my shoes, and refill my glass when needed, but do not smuggle broccoli into my sauce for my own well-being.</div>
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<div>this should be a bumper sticker. </div>


Original Post by .willow.

Mothering vs. Anticipatory Service

<p>I'm going to piggy-back this post off of Daisy's post titled "Emasculation of Husbands", specifically related to the "mothering" point.</p>
<p>I've heard "mothering" likened to anticipatory service and am trying to wrap my head around that.</p>
<p>Throughout my life I have had mainly male bosses. Most of my roles were service related, such as: Executive Assistant, Go To Girl (while it wasn't my title I'd do whatever he needed done) and others. My goal, and their expectation, was that I anticipate what was needed and simply take care of things if there was a situation that presented itself. This ranged from taking care of problems before he even knew there was a problem to performing daily duties and seeing where else I could make his workday easier. The less menial tasks he had to deal with or even think about, the more time he had to spend on the stuff that mattered. I always kept my eyes open for tasks or issues that needed attention. I never felt like any of this was mothering in any way. Maybe because it was work-related, and not personal. But in the end, I was still serving my bosses. My thoughts were "whatever he needs done, I'll do". It went well beyond a typical employees mindset. Before I even realized what a submissive woman really was I was being one for my bosses.</p>
<p>And while that form of anticipatory service was a welcome expectation in those roles, I wonder about a submissives role as she serves her Master. Because I was used to serving with that mentality, I naturally thought the same way while serving men (that are not work-related) and found that anticipatory service is not always a welcome mentality in a submissive. And that it can lead to "mothering" and even "topping from the bottom".</p>
<p><br />I'm curious how others (both male and female) see anticipatory service. Do you think its warranted in certain situations and not others (as is approved by her Master)? Do you think its an unwelcome move on the part of the female for any part of her service? Do you think "mothering" is a probable result of anticipatory service?</p>
<p>** Thank you to both daisy and lia for the inspiration! :)</p>

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