May 21, 2020

Humbled Females: new forum reply to Learning to be a pleasing hostess

New reply from Nina E.

<p>I second Lia's welcome back, Bessie! Long time, no see. :-)</p>
<p>I think the two biggest lessons my Master has taught me about hospitality are (1) the vast importance a clean, orderly, uncluttered and beautiful  environment has on everyone's state of mind, including that of the people one gives hospitality to and (2) that one of the most pleasing things a hostess can do is to make others in one's presence feel at home, relaxed, peaceful, happy, even amused to be where they are.  You can do that by focusing on and listening to them, really listening, and responding in ways that sincerely draw them out even more and make them feel good. In other words, you're not going through the motions nor are you doing this just to secretly  get more praise and attention heaped on yourself: you <em>sincerely desire</em> to make others happy–because it makes you so very happy when you do.  Learning all the elements involved in creating such an environment is complex, as it involves all the senses as well as natural tendencies toward sensitivity, thoughtfulness, and a strong, natural desire to please others. A good hostess also knows how to disappear into the woodwork and quietly let her guests and her Master shine.<br /><br />As to specifics, well, unlike you I suspect, I'm not a very inspired cook, although I'm good at following His recipes to the letter and not improvising in ways that displease Him.  I just cook whatever He wants however He wants it cooked. If I think something might taste better with a little whatever, I'll ask first, and if He says "no" that is the end of it. Forever, as it is His will and nothing is more important than it be done. (I think part of the fine art of submissive graciousness is to know instinctively when and how to back down at any time about anything.) Luckily, despite being a mediocre cook, I am not totally a lost case. Thanks to my job, I observe tiny details well and I transfer that skill to housekeeping:  I notice and fix anything messy or unkempt or that I know will displease Him in some way, <em>if</em> it lies within the sphere of my assigned duties. That last part is pretty important, too: in slavery it is equally important to understand and obey what not to do (even if you're craving to do it to "please Him") as it is to understand and obey what you should do.</p>

Original Post by bessie

Learning to be a pleasing hostess

<p>My mother did a decent job of teaching me the basic domestic arts. I learned the fundamentals of cooking and cleaning when I was young and I’m grateful to have had that foundation in my life as I see so many females today grow up without it. It was my Master, however, who put me on the path to becoming a gentle, pleasing, and <em>mindful</em> hostess. Master has taught me the importance of going beyond simple domestic acts and learning skills that bring extra pleasure to a Him in His home and to any guests He may have. For instance, under my Master’s leadership I’ve learned to plan exciting meals while being efficient in my preparations so that the kitchen isn’t a disaster area while I’m cooking. He’s taught me to put care into details such as making sure that food is not only delicious, but also beautifully displayed and presented. Master has also found it useful to have me learn special skills like mixing drinks to add a little something extra to an evening or holiday. I love pleasing Him by refining my domestic abilities in this way and I very much enjoy putting my love for Him onto all of those special touches. </p>
<p>What sort of refined domestic skills have you enjoyed learning to please your Man? I would love to know what other females have learned. </p>

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