August 17, 2020

Humbled Females: new forum reply to Hello World

New reply from Kahuna

<div class="wps_wp_editor_quote">Has anyone else struggled with consistency is keeping control of your house?</div>
<p>Have not had that experience. But can advise you that your female will never be consistent, so you must know her shifting moods and hormonal alterations well enough to manage things and keep a smooth course. While she will never be consistent, you must ALWAYS be. You are the emotionally steady and the consistently immovable rock upon which she relies. So much so that if you make the decision to be inconsistent, it would be wise to first explain to her the coming change, so as  not to threaten her security. Remember, she is <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong>trusting</strong></em></span> you with her life, to make better decisions for her and for your relationship than she could do on her own, without your guidance. Good leaders must demonstrate consistency and confidence, </p>
<p> … all men have dominant traits within them. I believe its simply naturally a part of their core.</p>
<p>Mostly agree, but think the word "all" might be a slight overstatement in todays myriad of various gender orientations. It is very likely that the vast majority of Men are natural Doms, but most have too may layers of socialization suppressing natural and authentic Male instincts.</p>

Original Post by Dom2099

Hello World

<p>Hello all.</p>
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<p>I am struggling and in need of guidance. I want to be a dominant man, but I'm afraid that I possess too many submissive traits. My father was an every-other-weekend dad. He is very nice guy, but defiantly not dominant over anything. I was always the shy kid who never said much and when I did, I tried to make it funny so people would laugh. I never had a girlfriend because I could not get up the nerve to talk to any girls outside of school-related situations. Looking back, I'm fairly sure that some girls were interested in me, but I was so self-loathing that I could never see the signs or refused to believe that any girl could want me. I was raised by my mother until about 5 when she married a new man. He was basically a bully. He would push me to 'not be a pussy', but he would never really attempt to help me be anything different. When I hit puberty, I gained a lot of weight and it stayed. I was ashamed of my body and never got any encouragement from any males in my life. I think that a bit of the issue is that I have never really had any strong male figures in my life to look up to or to go to with problems. Both sides of my family are matriarchies.</p>
<p>When I was around 25 and still living at home, I decided I wanted to make a change so I agreed to meet a girl my cousin knew. She was very attractive, funny, seemed to know what she wanted and actually seemed interested in me. Fast forward to now and we have been together 10 years and married for 5.</p>
<p>We are to the point that we need to change our dynamic. I am working from home and she is currently going back to school. I have become too complacent in letting her 'steer the ship' and make the decisions. It feels like I moved out of my mom's house and into hers and I fell right back into being OK with a woman in-charge. I want to step up and be a dominant husband and she wants so desperately to be submissive and taken in-hand. I have the desire, but I am not sure about the confidence and skills. I lack confidence and too easily falter when questioned. I have trouble expressing exactly what I want out of a Domestic Discipline life-style. We have tried and failed several times over the years and it always came down to me not following through. I have been reading though many of the posts and articles on this site and I am really liking the spot somewhere between a submissive slave and a 50's style marriage where 'Daddy-knows-best'. I want to lead, but I seem to not be able to convince myself I am a leader.</p>
<p>Any advice or pseudo mentoring would be very appreciated.</p>

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