New reply from Nina E.
<p>Welcome Roxie, and good luck in finding the right man. I've noticed that if a person has had to be "take charge" all of her life, it can be hard to relinquish that role and all of the attitudes and assumptions that come with it. I'm sure you can guess how I've noticed that. :-/ <br /><br />It may require a lot of personal self-work on ideas, assumptions, attitudes, and the like: this depends a lot on each individual's makeup, of course. In my experience, nobody can do this hard work for you, even a master, although such a man can often guide and point the way, because nobody is in your head except yourself, nobody knows what you're specifically dealing with and to what degree except yourself—if that makes sense. But desiring to to take on this often daunting task is the essential first step, and the rewards from sticking with it, working hard, and eventually succeeding pay a submissive woman back tenfold. In my experience, a sense of humor and an ability to forgive oneself (well, when the latter is not taken overboard and transformed into <em>carte blanche</em> to do anything and everything, lol) pay back big dividends in this enterprise.</p>
Original Post by Roxie330
Hello from the Western Suburbs of Chicago
<p>I received a recommendation from a Dom on Fetlife to check out this site. I have some some exposure and want to learn and explore more. I have spent the majority of my adult life single and taking care of me and my child. This has developed int a take charge and get it done personality in my day to day life. I want to be able to let go and allow my man to take charge. I just don't know how to find the right man. I just get frustrated…..</p>
<p>I can't wait to explore more of this site.</p>