July 7, 2020

Humbled Females: new forum reply to Emasculation of husbands

New reply from TFP

<p>In daily conversation with females I mostly observe the C-criticism and the E-envying other relationships, as the most common traits in females emasculating their man. Seems this is more out frustration than direct vicious criticism. I believe more often than not, its the boy that doesn't know how or want to be a man that drives the female emasculation. Peter Pan didn’t want to grow up and lived in a land of make believe, with the lost boys. A boy cultivates unattainable female fantasies, aka Tinker Bell. Boys need to learn competence and take on responsibility, dealing with the chaotic psych of the female takes skill.</p>
<p>I know, I know, I’ve been listening to Dr. Peterson again….</p>


Original Post by _daisy_

Emasculation of husbands

<p>I came across this recently (on twitter again) and thought it quite useful. It's from a religious source but the (often unconscious) ways we can emasculate our Men is universal, I fear. </p>
<p>E – emotional manipulation</p>
<p>M – mothering</p>
<p>A – aggression</p>
<p>S – smothering</p>
<p>C – criticism</p>
<p>U – undermining</p>
<p>L – lust and flirting</p>
<p>A – avoiding issues</p>
<p>T – taunting</p>
<p>E – envy of other relationships</p>
<p>One excerpt from the mothering section:</p>
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<h4>Okay guys, I can be such a mom – in every sense of the word. But gosh, it’s damaging, and especially to my marriage. We have gotten to a place where I have recognized that this is a struggle for me and am actively choosing my words & actions more wisely, but that hasn’t always been the case. And I believe in many marriages, the wife acts like her husband’s mother, but because she thinks that it’s what’s ‘best’, she avoids the issue and drains her husband of all independence and joy.</h4>
<h4>If you are regularly telling your husband what’s best for him or making your own convictions <i>his </i>convictions, it’s likely that you’re playing the role of ‘mom’ rather than the role of ‘wife’. This tends to make a man feel smaller and smaller in his role as your protector.</h4>
<p><a href="https://sparrowsandlily.com/10-ways-a-wife-disrespects-her-husband/">https://sparrowsandlily.com/10-ways-a-wife-disrespects-her-husband/</a></p>

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