We’ve all witnessed it before in our lives: the troubled expression on someone’s face when looking at a loved one, the uncomfortable silences, the unspoken agreement not to mention it. Even in the relationships of dominant males and submissive females, there are subjects that many have deemed too personal and critical to discuss. Interestingly enough, a man can dictate his girl’s hairstyle, clothing choices, even the brand of perfume she wears, and it will only make her feel more cherished and cared for. But most men, be they Master, husband or boyfriend, quail at the thought of mentioning an issue that not only affects a woman’s physical attractiveness, but her health, and thus, her ability to please to the fullest extent she can.
That issue, of course, is weight.
The prevalence of obesity has increased dramatically in the last 30–50 years. About one-third of U.S. adults (33.8%) are obese. Approximately 17% (or 12.5 million) of children and adolescents aged 2—19 years are obese.1 In tandem, we have been conditioned to accept the sight of an overweight or obese person with a dangerous silence, browbeaten by the cudgel of political correctness into telling polite lies right to their faces. All the while, our lifestyles—and consequently, our forms—grow more and more grotesque and unnatural.
This is not mass conspiracy or spurious scientific conjecture; this is fact. Outside of being unattractive to most people, being overweight causes health problems.
Females come in all shapes and sizes, it’s true, and it’s a good thing, too, given the varying tastes of those who enjoy them, but there are limits to what the human body can withstand while still remaining healthy, and it is the height of arrogance for anyone to claim the right to silence discussion of a physical reality simply because it makes them uncomfortable. Obesity has become the great monster lurking in the corner of the room, seldom openly acknowledged, but always lending its influence to surrounding relationships and interactions. When one is in the company of a grossly obese person, one feels the constant need to tiptoe around the subject, for fear of causing pain or offense.
While this is perhaps somewhat understandable in general society, how did it become so between dominant males and submissive females? If a man’s woman is out of physical shape, does he not have the right to improve her? For that is, at heart, the situation, if his female allows herself to become unhealthy and unappealing by failing to maintain an acceptable weight in his eyes. This is a painful subject. The original author of this essay was well aware of that fact, being herself a female who was struggling with a weight problem. As has been said many times, however, the truth hurts, and the truth is, to most humans, that excess fat is unattractive as well as detrimental to the health of its bearer.
We all know this; it’s not as if so many medical studies and the recommendations of health professionals have been hiding from us all along. We know obesity is linked to type two diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, coronary artery disease, stroke, and sleep apnea in the very least.2 This is not mass conspiracy or spurious scientific conjecture; this is fact. Outside of being unattractive to most people, being overweight causes health problems. While this information is freely available, some of us continue to hide from the fact obesity continues to be a problem for society.3 Those who remain fat either fool themselves into not seeing it, pretend not to, or simply shrug and say, “this is the way I am. There’s nothing I can do.” But why, we ask, should a dominant male who would rather keep a slender and pretty female need to do conspire in this denial? The answer is simple: he shouldn’t. If his female is on a path of self-destruction and one which makes her less pleasing to his eye, then it is well within his rights to steer her from it. For what is a female if not a creature in need of the rational leadership of a capable man—and particularly in the area of a problem so notoriously difficult to conquer?
Western society is indeed guilty of having a dysfunctional and ignorant relationship with food, enabled, in part, by opportunistic food companies all too willing to help us along in it all. One could say it’s not entirely our fault, but it is entirely our responsibility to fix, once we are aware of the weight predicament we find ourselves in.
The diet industry is one of the most continually prosperous in the Western world.4 Everywhere we look there are more advertisements for products and programs to assist us in losing weight. This is not a small issue or an isolated one—everyone knows it’s hard to get fit in a society in love with junk food and the pleasures of eating. Over this past decade, America has only now begun, in any serious number, to take interest in healthy eating, rather than simply yo-yo dieting into a more dysfunctional relationship with food. Western society is indeed guilty of having a dysfunctional and ignorant relationship with food, enabled, in part, by opportunistic food companies all too willing to help us along in it all. One could say it’s not entirely our fault, but it is entirely our responsibility to fix, once we are aware of the weight predicament we find ourselves in.
Considering the toxic eating habits many of us were raised with, the effort in turning around years of weight gain due to a lifestyle of overeating and lethargy can be tremendously difficult, but it’s not impossible. It’s not even as hard as we make it…we just don’t want to give up the foods we like, or engage in the activities we think we’ll hate. The simple, unvarnished truth is that most of us can help being fat. That’s right. Gland problems, poor metabolisms, and genes that encourage overeating do exist, but they are not as all-encompasing as some would have us believe. Poor diet, energy imbalance, and lack of physical activity is the primary culprit.5 Even in families where there is a genetic influence, the observance of a healthy lifestyle greatly reduces the likelihood of obesity.
It often hurts to admit that one is overweight. It often hurts even more to admit that it’s one’s own fault. But in the great majority of cases, that’s exactly what should be done. If one is a free person, that act of taking accountability is of course a choice and can be left for all eternity if one so desires, but a submissive female owes her Keeper better than that casual dismissal of fact, just as she owes him the pleasure of beholding a woman who is as healthy and beautiful as possible. While “beauty” is truly in the eyes of the beholder, it’s a little dishonest to assert we as human beings don’t have a common definition of it, beyond the outlier fetish for overweight women. Generally, males like physically attractive females for a reason that is biological, and this common appreciation is world-wide, not merely a coincidence of cultural bias.6 Beauty to the average male does not include a female that is grossly overweight. Outside of pleasing those men who indeed have a fetish for obese women, how can an overweight female be pleasing to her husband or Master, when it’s obvious from her own appearance that the pleasures of overeating and sedentary living take more priority than pleasing him? How can a Master be proud of a “slave” who is out of control in this way? And how can he, in good conscience, deny his own right to assert that control, if she cannot?
If the reader can disregard the automatic outrage that comes of seeing this approach to such an almost-universally sore subject, we believe he or she will recognize both the truth of our words, and the positive intentions behind their publication. We do not seek to humiliate or hurt the overweight and obese; on the contrary, we wish to help them in making the decision to improve. There are times in our lives when almost all of us find it is easier to change for someone else than for ourselves; how could it be otherwise for the submissive heart?
It is perhaps best to close this essay with a gentle reminder for those who have come to realize this aspect of a woman’s duty. That reminder is thus: any influence a slave grants to food and laziness is influence of which her Master has been cheated. Surely most of us can agree upon which is more important.
What can you do to fight problems with your weight?
- Have a healthy diet plan, including home-cooked meals with fruits, vegetables, and lean meats.
- Avoid excessive snacking, particularly on processed foods and foods high in salt and sugar.
- Keep track of your calorie consumption and consider your daily activity level: are there adjustments to make?
- Avoid being sedentary. Try to get in at least a few cardiovascular/interval workouts per-week.
- Consider exploring any psychological issues that may have lead you to obesity in the first place.
1. URL: https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/fastats/overwt.htm
2. URL: https://www.cdc.gov/obesity/causes/health.html
4. The diet business: Banking on failure. (BBC News World Edition, Feb 5 2003).
5. URL: https://www.cdc.gov/obesity/causes/index.html
6: Female Mate Value at a Glance: Relationship of Waist-to-Hip Ratio to Health, Fecundity and Attractiveness. Neuroendocrinology Letters 2002; 23(Suppl.4):81–91 (Singh, D. 2002).